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There is something powerful about a man who looks you in the eye and he says, “I want you.”
I want to marry you.
I want you to have my children.
I want to grow old with you.
I want no one but you, I am done searching.
I cannot live without you, in my life.
Those words have power. Power to free you from your self-conceived shackles.
Power to make you superwoman. Power to make you take that love, power and promise; shake it up, multiply it and return it 100 fold.
Those words..I want you…enforced by action, thought, attention and wrapped in love, is life-giving.
So yes, I want you and no one else.
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By: Denise N. Fyffe.
Copyright © 2012, Poetess Defy, Denise Fyffe
Prince, who is a singer, songwriter, multimillionaire, from the 1980’s did a song called, “When doves cry”. We all know that this is not so, but these lovely creatures are symbolic of love and unity. Thousands of wedding ceremony have incorporated them because of this symbolism. Couples add in white doves into their wedding ceremonies; hoping that it adds meaning and says to their partner, how they feel about them. It also indicates to their guests how in love the couple really is.
People experiment with their Jamaican weddings more and more. They believe in including the many facets that they as a couple enjoy; especially with the theme and music. They still keep the older tradition of throwing rice and jumping the broom; but they have included new traditions more. Therefore weddings now include doves, bubbles and anything else the couple can think to add.
The use of dove is very varied. Couples come up with different methods of setting them free or adding them to the wedding ceremony. The trend is to use white doves. They can be released usually at the end of the ceremony from the chapel or loft. They can be released just before the couple drives off, or even after they say their I dos, depending on the wedding venue. The release indicates or represents the couple branching out into the world, and starting a life together.
The reference to doves can also be included in the ceremony. This can be stated by the minister, priest or officiator. He or she will draw reference to the symbolism or it can be included by the couple in the vows; especially in the exchange of rings section. The decision as to when these references are made, or when to release the doves, lies with the happy couple.
You also need to consider the holding areas or cages for the doves. There are many ways to incorporate them, and also how to display them. They can be keep close to the venue or ceremony area; just as long as they won’t be a distraction or noisy. You can think about the color or type of cage to put them in; whether white, gold or silver. You can have a handler there who will see to their food and comfort needs. Because of what hey symbolize your guests will be touched and many awed by their presence and inclusion into the ceremony.
When, where and how to include the doves, does not have to be complicated. The couple can decide whether to include them in your nuptials, at the reception or after the nuptials. You can also dictate the number of doves to release. This can be two or more; and reference can also be made to this in the ceremony.
By: Denise N. Fyffe.
Copyright © 2015, Poetess Defy, Denise Fyffe
You think about your wedding ceremony from you were a little girl. Planning on what type of wedding dress you will wear the type of cake and how many bridesmaids you will have. You choose your partners based on your romantic notion of prince charming and then one day you find him. He proposes to you, and you have a wedding to plan and it will be important that you take every detail into consideration. Having a disaster on your wedding day is never something a couple plans for. That is why it is important for every detail of the wedding to be looked over, and not overlooked. This includes the location, time of year, theme, invitations, cake, food, wedding party, attire, wedding dress fitting and many other miscellaneous areas. Be prepared for all the tension that comes with planning a wedding and figure out how you will handle them.
One of the main things you can do is get a wedding planning workbook. Ensure it has all the resources, steps and guides that you can use to plan a wedding ceremony and the reception; from day one until the execution of the event. You will use this planner to keep track of all the details, and it will help you to remain organised. A workbook will also stop you from forgetting some of the minor details that may slip through the cracks and you won’t wake up on your wedding day, dreading that some minor detail was forgotten. You should also keep all invoices, bills and receipts in this workbook.
There are disastrous things that happen on a wedding day. Some you may not learn about until after the wedding ceremony; such as getting horrible or low quality pictures of your wedding. This would be devastating for any couple as it was the only way you could capture such a precious moment. Therefore ensure you get a professional and research them to the hilt. Make sure you have seen samples of their work, meet with them on a couple of occasions, do they show up early, how is their personality and do they respect your opinion. You have to look out for all these things. Make sure they have more than one person taking pictures or doing the video recording. Some couples ask their friends or family members to take pictures as well just to make sure.
You have to do wedding planning for other disasters like not getting your wedding location. You cannot leave this detail until the last minute. It is one of the first things that you have to take care of; a popular wedding location goes like hot bread, especially in the peak wedding, spring, or summer season. Once you have decided try to get the venue booked and contract signed. Make sure you have alternative just in case that it is booked. Not having wedding dress is a disaster of epic proportions to most brides; especially if they have lost weight, gained weight, or had some accident. There are thousands of options to getting a dress online, research websites and stores in and around your area. Make sure you take a trusted friend and family member on your hunt, to give you constant honest feedback on how you look in it. The dress of your dreams might not be the best dress for your body.
By: Denise N. Fyffe.
Copyright © 2015, Denise N. Fyffe
People always throw away wedding favors, eventually, that they have no use for. You do not want this to happen after spending so much money on them. Your efforts and planning would have been for naught. But if you come up with ingenious and simple options; things that people can use on the day or even when they go back home, this minimizes the likelihood of them being added to the wastebasket. You can sit and discuss with friends and family who have been to many weddings; finding out what their best wedding favor was and the worst. This is a simple and easy way to generate new ideas.
Giving guests hand held a fan as summer wedding favors is a popular practice. These months are known for their unbearable heat, and if your wedding is held outside, it could be a simple solution to the problem of heat and coming up with an idea for wedding favors. Fans are a casual as well as fun solution, and depending on the type of design, can translate to a casual or more formal theme. The wedding date, couples name, and other odd bits of information can be printed on the handle of the paper that makes up the fan. Putting the picture of the bride or groom can also be done. Oriental fans are a favorite choice of many. They will also be able to use the fan in other locations, at other times. If the fan is very sturdy, it can last for years and be a favorite of many people; possibly something they can take back at an anniversary celebration. You can also use manageable, small motored fans that can be easily carried and fit in ladies bags. These fans can also be embellished with silk, or lace.
For a long lasting wedding favor, think about giving plants. People can use them to add to their garden, or place in their homes. You will have to decide on a plant that most people can manage, doesn’t require a lot of care and can be transplanted if your guests wish to do so. Or you can have a mixture of plants. They can be fruit or flowered plants. Many people are environmentally conscious and there are foundations and groups that can have packages for the replanting of trees in deforested areas. This would be a nice memento for the occasion.
Packets of seeds are another perfect, environmental summer option for weddings. Your guests will be able to take these and plant them in the fall, or even on the wedding day. Again this can be done in gardens, or in areas identified for reforestation. You can add cards with little notes and other keep sakes if you wish with instructions for planting the seeds and what type of plant they are. You can choose seeds for your favorite flower or fruits.
By: Denise N. Fyffe.
Copyright © 2010, Poetess Defy, Denise Fyffe
Many people who tattoo their skin have the areas that display the tattoo waxed or shaved; especially if it is very hairy, like their arm. Manscaping is a novel idea for some men; the thought of removing hair from places such as your chest, arm or back is just an intolerable thought. But, this might be very considerate if you plan to vacation one an island and strut your stuff on the beach. It will also be considerate to your new wife. Women shave, pluck and wax almost every part of their body; men may consider doing this for some parts of theirs.
Removing hair is a serious contemplation for men; especially those who are macho and are highly against it, but will consider it for their spouses. If you are going to shave or wax certain areas, keep in mind the need to moisturize and use sun block to both protect it from sunlight and keep it moisturized. If you plan on venturing to the Caribbean or any tropical area this is even more necessary. Here is another great reason to remove unsightly hair. It will look horrible and repulsive on the beaches or in public. If you have back hair or an immense over growth of chest hair consider, waxing. As men, you should be even more tolerant of pain; as it does not last forever. Your newlywed wife will be very appreciative, receptive and might even reward you for your actions.
A lot of people shave their armpits. Seeing a bushy forest from under a man’s arm is truly a put off and might be a huge turn off, if you are planning on wearing tank tops on those tropical getaways. Another benefit is that, once removed, you will not have to worry about your odor or perspiration so much; as the deodorant will be applied directly into your skin. The occurrence of sweat marks and stains on your shirts should also lessen. This act is both beneficial to you and your partner.
Removing hair from your man bits; now this is a tricky topic for some. You do not have to go as bald as a new-born baby. You have different alternatives, like just trimming. Remove the excess. If you choose to shave all off, then you have to maintain it, as anywhere you remove hair, there will be stubble. This can give our spouse razor burn or chaff her skin.
Tanning is another consideration for those all white and milky men; especially if you are coming from the colder regions. You might not want to glow when you visit the tropical islands. You don’t have to do excessive tanning in tanning salons. You can choose to go to a spa and allow them to air brush you. Choose a nice shade that will compliment you and not make you look like an orange human.
By: Denise N. Fyffe.
Copyright © 2015, Poetess Defy, Denise Fyffe
“Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue“, all and sundry knows about this age-old saying. To make sure of happiness in the marriage, it is believed that a bride should have these things for good luck. These items are more often than not included creatively in the wedding. Weddings are filled with the invocation of many traditional practices. Those passed down from one generation to the next. Families also play an important role in these traditions; passing on heirlooms and other little trinkets.
The bridal gown is often a prime example of this tradition. Often mothers of female family members will pass on a wedding dress, and it might be the brides something old, or something borrowed and on occasion something blue. Brides need to ensure that they do not wear these gowns out of guilt but because they want to and it fits the overall wedding theme. Jewelry is another accessory that can fit the tradition, and often is. This may include earrings, pendants, brooches, watches and even the wedding ring itself. Men have been giving their brides the heirlooms or rings of their mothers or some other relative. For those who do not have these items handed down in their family; you can visit internet selling sites such as eBay and Amazon to find real treasures. Visiting the antique store in your area is another good option. Remember stick to the style of your wedding theme.
One thing that will take little effort is having ‘something new’. Between the bridal shower and other gifts; plus your own shopping you will have covered your bases in this regard. Remember, your something new can be anything, including lingerie. The same applies for your something borrowed. This can be jewelry, dress, anything from friend of family especially if you have admired it yourself for quite some time and your wedding day would be the ideal day to get it. If your female relatives still have their garters, this might be an opportune time to borrow it.
Be careful on selecting what your ‘something blue’ will be. You do not want it to be distracting, gaudy or clashing with the wedding theme. A new trend is using people, like the maid of honor or mother dressed in blue, as that tradition. Other items that can be used are underwear, jewelry, hair pins, shows, bouquets and handkerchiefs.
Many people are not aware of the “a silver sixpence in her shoe” tradition. Finding this silver penny may be impossible, therefore you can use a dime or penny or depending on your country some local coin currency. But you may want to check auction sites, local pawn and auction shops for a silver sixpence. Having things that symbolize tradition, in a wedding can be a very fulfilling experience.