Jamaican Storytelling: Excerpt from Gray Shades, The perpetuation of Emotional rape (Faith) by Denise N. Fyffe

By: Denise N. Fyffe

How can men be so callous and premeditated, in luring a woman in and then decimating her emotions? How can you make someone believe that you care for them, when all you want is the game? What if it were your daughter that some fool played and used her up and then discarded her like an old toy? Because that’s what she is, isn’t she? Only good until something better comes around!

Faith thinks we have a fundamental illness called the ‘playa mentality’ rifling through the craniums of today’s over 20 ‘boys’. She thinks our society, Jamaica and black men are at risk of being despised by women, turning them gay and maybe ending up on some coroners table before their time. She thinks our men have lacked proper, mature gentlemen role models who would show them how to court, protect and provide for a woman. It is evident that this is one of the consequences of the matriarchal societies of the third world. We are in deep, very deep.

In today’s society, men are swayed even more by the argument that women outnumber men, or that men are in short supply. They have lost the fundamental morals and regard for a monogamous relationship. It is their thinking that they can fool a woman into giving it up by telling her lies, playing tricks and leading her by the nose, blindly into the bedroom. It is an unfortunate conundrum.

There is nothing like the good feelings derived from loving someone and knowing that they love you back. There is nothing like those butterflies you feel in your tummy, because that special someone makes you nervous. There is nothing like the expectation of seeing that person and seeing that happiness reflected and reciprocated in their eyes and actions. If everybody wished it, everybody attained it and everybody was in a lasting relationship because of it; it might actually be the darn solution to World Peace!

Why don’t they see that the process of falling in love, having someone love you for life, having babies, building a family and reaping all the blessings and good memories from that; the thing to aspire towards? Why not wish to leave a good legacy and not a continuance of perpetuating emotional rape on females, in the gene sequence? Why? Why?

We will soon be overrun in a world of immature boys, and an overwhelming amount of our relationships being woman to woman; because who else but a woman knows her needs right? The truth seems to be a myth these days and acting morally seems to be a thing only done in fairy tales.

Why is it a man’s sole prerogative to so rape and ravage a woman emotionally, so much so that she is highly insecure and distrustful of any other male? That she is so handicapped in a genuine and honest relationship; it would simply take an act of God for her to find a happy, fulfilling, loving relationship with any other man?

….Stay tuned for more…
By: Denise N. Fyffe.
Copyright © 2014, Denise N. Fyffe

Facing the challenges of a life filled with hurt, depression and suicidal tendencies; the journey towards transformation.

Copyright © 2015 · All Rights Reserved · Denise N. Fyffe

She has published several books of poetry including:

  1. Jamaican Honey and Sauce
  2. Jamaican Pebbles
  3. Jamaican Pebbles: Poetry Pocketbook
  4. Love Under The Caribbean Stars
  5. Sensuous One
  6. The Island Journal: Jamaica’s Golden Year
  7. Honey to my Sauce
  8. The Expert Teacher’s Guide on How to Motivate Students
  9. Messages to the Deaf
  10. Be Lifted Up
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