This is a brief insight into a woman’s mind.
Men, every woman want tenderness.
No matter what a female/woman says or even how she acts, she wants tenderness. Whether she seems overly independent and might not require anything from you. Whether she is a supreme court judge, a high-profile politician, warden of the worse prison on the earth or a ‘she-devil’ in a female’s body; you can rest assured, she needs tenderness.
There are many definitions and meanings, but the definitions that explain aptly what women want, are:
a. Considerate and protective; solicitous: his tender concern.
b. Characterized by or expressing gentle emotions; loving: a tender glance; a tender ballad.
c. Given to sympathy or sentimentality; soft: a tender heart.
We have passed through and passed on from, the time when men and women displayed their affection for each other easily and romantically. Our explanation is that it is a new time, and everything has changed. But have they changed for the better.
Our statistics shows that the divorce rates are the highest ever. You have a better chance of living till 100 than you have of remaining married. This is a sad state of affairs for our people, our culture, and our planet.
What affects one, affects all.
The foundation of many acts of violence, especially against women can be found in the lack of affection between men and women.
We can also go back and examine the music lyrics and its influence on our generation. Derogatory comes to mind. Especially in our dancehall and hip-hop music. We have become so assimilated to the subtle means of corruption to self, family, and society that we cannot recognize it and embrace it for progress and change.
That’s why I go back to a very basic and simple act. Expressing tenderness to the persons you like or love. Maybe some of us would calm down and chill out if our emotional need for this act was met.
We would not be so agitated, annoyed, angry and aggressive.
Women do not read this and be selfish in thinking that the reverse is not true. Men need tenderness too.
If you agree, try a little tenderness, take up the challenge of expressing tender emotions to the significant person in your life. The same strategy can be applied to friends and family. Be consistent and notice the subtle changes.
Be progressive in creating a roadblock to the negative influences against our culture, our people or way of life.
Indulge in less me time, and more we time.
Find the time to enjoy new pleasurable activities.
Find the means and words to express what that person means to you. It doesn’t take flowers and jewelry, to do this. Even though, I dare say it doesn’t hurt. (smiles).
Express yourself and your emotions, try a little tenderness.
Copyright © 2018, Denise N. Fyffe
One thought on “Men Try a Little Tenderness In Your Relationships”
I have read some of your poems and read posts about love et al. I think that most men have issues with monogamy and females too they just hide it better perhaps, End of day we all need love and tenderness and ‘benefits,’ lol. As a writer myself and poet but more than that a man on his own Lakota path, the connection to mother and divine Feminine comes from the earth. I teach Indian ritual to men and lodge and I must say if you want to see a man break down and get in touch w/ his feminine tender side, seek out lodge. Great blog poetess. Thanks.
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